I approached two women looking at a menu outside a restaurant a few nights ago. I wasn’t attracted to either of them…but I asked and teased them about the restaurant and chatted a bit. “Big Shot” watched. Then their extremely hot friend joined them, I switched to her, and Big Shot came in and talked to the original two girls (he was smooth and occupied them without a problem). The Hottie had an amazing personality and we talked about food, culture, and travel, and I got her #. I had just passed the two girls because I wasn’t into them…I would not have met the hottie.
The lesson here is that being social is fun – you can make friends and expand your social circle, and you can meet their friends as well. I talk to people everywhere including people who work in stores (and restaurants and bars)…and I make connections and often get free stuff and better treatment that way.
Also, when you are being social, other people notice and want to talk to you as well.