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2/2: Price goes up from $300 to $400  tomorrow! Info here. Buy tickets form my link here.

-Cuisine

Edit  2/2: Price goes up from $300 to $400  tomorrow!

Edit: 1/20: Price goes up from $200 to $300 at midnight tonight (1/21)!

-Cuisine

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I was a speaker and infield daygame coach at this conference last year.  Here it is again!

The Global Pickup Conference (Kings of Pickup), Washington DC (Georgetown) During The Weekend Of March 23th – 25th, 2012

INCLUDED WITH ADMISSION

• 2 Days Of In Class Training
• 1 Full Day Infield Training
• 100 Page Routine Manual (Worth Over $100)
• VIP Forum Access
• VIP Video Vault Access Over 10 Hours of Video Infield & Training Footage (Worth Over $300)
• Free Podcast Subscription
• FREE DC Guide
• FREE Raffle Ticket We will be raffling off FREE Products & Training Throughout the conference.
• Discounts on Hotels & Food
• And Much More…

Speakers:

Speer

Vince Kelvin

Brad P.

Ross Jeffries

David Wygant

Erika Awakening

And More…

Buy tickets here. It is currently only $299, but the price jumps to $399 soon–buy now.

This article is my portion of the January 2012 “He Said/She Said” Dating Column from DC Life Magazine.The “she” perspective will be in the final article and is from a DC Area Matchmaker.

Edit: DC Life is a bit behind with the January issue. I’ll post a link when the issue is out.

-Cuisine

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Clients often ask me how to meet women at the gym, since it is a place where they spend a lot of time.  Plus, generally they share common interests (fitness and living a healthy lifestyle) with other people at the gym. So, how do you meet women at the gym? The gym is a social environment, a place where people spend a lot of time and often know the staff and other people who are there working out.  Below are my tips for meeting women at the gym:

Choose your gym carefully. You want a gym that meets your needs and interests. This could mean joining a gym with pools, running tracks, saunas, basketball courts, specific classes (see below), rock climbing walls, etc. The happier you are with your overall gym experience, the more successful you will be meeting people there. And, you could have fitness preferences and conversation topics in common with a potential match–you both like to swim, run, rock climb, or practice yoga.  Tour the gym to see if it has the equipment and facilities you need, and see if the type of women you are interested in work out there.

Dress well. In a gym, I wear cool t-shirts (as far as design, logo, or message), but that isn’t the only way to go. You want to show that you have style. Don’t wear worn out or ratty sneakers or clothes.  I have seen people wearing clothes with stained armpits or holes and that is not the way to go.

Get to know the staff.  If you want personal training to jump start your workout, consider scheduling time with a trainer. Many gyms give free sessions with trainers to get you to join; some even offer discounted memberships and/or sessions with trainers through daily deal websites like LivingSocial.com. Personal training sessions put you in more of a direct client-trainer relationship with the staff member, making him or her more interested in helping you in general. These trainers might even introduce you to people, or give you intel without you even asking.   Be friendly with all the employees you encounter (trainers/instructors, assistants, front desk, etc.); it will be helpful when women see you getting along well with the staff, especially (but not exclusively) female staff.

Talk to women you are interested in. You do not have to start a conversation based on working out. Do not start conversations with “excuse me” (because you are then assuming that you are interrupting them) but simply start the conversation with a situational topic or general theme. My gym conversations tend to be about music (what is playing, if I can change the music, what I’m listening to on headphones, what the other person is listening to on headphones), TV (what is on it, if I can change it, similar shows to what is on the TV, new shows), or food (because I’m into food), but you could just as easily talk about movies (probably not horror), hiking, adventure sports, or a variety of other subjects. You are leading the conversation, but if a subject consistently doesn’t work, try new ones.  Humor works as well as long as it comes off as natural and not forced or nervous. Some more specific info about talking to people at the gym:

Talk to women in different areas of the gym to see what works for you. I have had success talking to women who are on the next treadmill, as well as women on weight machines near me, with the former being longer conversations with people who often would rather talk to you than be bored on a treadmill, and the latter being shorter conversations that you drop and pick up again as you move around the gym.  You can also talk to them again another day. I’ll pretty much talk to someone anywhere (except areas that are for women only), with the understanding that some of the conversations will be longer than others.

Pay attention to how responsive she is. If she is really into her workout, she may not be responsive to conversation, but may actually be more open talk at other times, such as the beginning or end of her workout, during a break between different types of exercises, or on another day.

Attend classes. Gyms have a variety of coed classes, which can be a good way to meet people. Check out a variety of classes (yoga, jujitsu, strength/flexibility, body pump, etc.) and see what works for you, both for your workout and meeting people. I know a lot of women go to Zumba and Pilates classes, but I’ve never attended those particular classes. Show up to the classes early so that you can chit-chat with others while waiting for the class to begin.

Have a plan. Think about possible dates or activities that you can do with her if she is responsive. Knowing where good nearby cafes, bars, and restaurants are can be useful. You can also take her to events or plan activities such as hiking.

Get to know other gym-goers. Be friendly and talk to people even if you aren’t interested in a date with them. You don’t want to talk people to death (especially if they are not responsive), but be friendly. Keeping a relatively stable workout schedule will help you see and talk to the same people, but you can also run out of new people to meet that way (unless it is a large gym).  I go to the gym very often and without a set schedule, which allows me to meet a larger variety of people.

I hope this column improves your success and comfort level meeting potential dates at the gym. The more you practice being social (regardless of environment), the easier meeting people becomes.

-Cuisine

Man eater? Not this time! My client now knows better what to look out for.

One of my clients always seems to be in the right place to see interesting demos. He was awed last weekend by how I handles a store manager (unsuccessfully, but also unintentionally, since he really did want to talk to me) AMOGing me with a very hot hired gun but last night was something completely different and just as amazing.

I was in a coffee shop with a client last night, working on fine tuning his answers to personality questions and essay questions on internet profiles. The demo girl was very into me and her body language became more and more interested, and yes, she qualified herself more and more. I also repeatedly called out what she was going to do before she did it. I could have easily gotten her # of bounced her somewhere (if I liked deceptive women).

This girl became the text book demo of the kind of girl my client should watch out for…he would absolutely have went for this girl if I had not opened her…and he would have fallen for all her tricks. She works men to get them to do things for her or buy her things (even if it sometimes fulfills their needs as well)…and in the case of married men…she gives them what they need emotionally, pushes them to stay with their wives, and doesn’t actually sleep with them. With unmarried men, she also gets whatever she wants and maybe sleeps with them, depending on how many men are in her rotation. She was a textbook “Ideal Lover” from Art of Seduction, but her game is all smoke and mirrors (deception). She is used to men not being able to read her since she smiles, doesn’t really truly share of herself (she makes up great stories), and tells them what they want to hear. She just uses her seduction type to manipulate people, while Ideal Lover can also be used in a better way (sensing peoples needs and filling them by using genuine qualities or behaviors you possess).

So, I pointed out her tactics, and her inner game issues so that he could see them. This included pointing out her deceptive body language (shoulder shrugs, reverse head nodding, conflicting facial sub communications of emotion, etc.). She truly believes that everyone is deceptive so its her reality. She is in a pattern and even though she eventually wants marriage/kids, in order to achieve that goal, she will have to start being more genuine and stop gaming unavailable/attached men. She has a fear of not being noticed by people (and is insecure), leading her to game men even harder to validate herself.

The funny thing here, is that while I could read her (and the other men she has met can’t), she could not read me as a person, probably because she thought she thought she was doing better than she was, and also assumes all men are both deceptive and fall for her tricks. She could read some of my tactics really well, but not my motives. She said I worked the room, but could not understand that sometimes I was just being social. And at the point where she realized her errors (such as being very shady with me, when I prefer “genuine” people, even as friends), it was too late for her to change her tactics.

This set was at least an hour long (we were still working on his profile) on and off, and near the end my client tried to DHV me, and suggested I give her my business card (I declined), which is where she realized she wasn’t doing as well as she thought (I knew what I was doing). She did keep trying to get me but I eventually stopped her, but the client had seen what he needed to see, and will be more aware of girls who are gold diggers/users or deceptive. I don’t even want to be friends with girls like this (who might take advantage of my friends), so did not exchange info.

-Cuisine

Knack is back from Asia for a short time and is planning one Washington DC bootcamp. He coached me when I was new. He is awesome. Email him at theknack500@hotmail.com if you are interested and tell him “Cuisine” sent you. Word has it he was he behind the scenes coach on Season 2 of the Pick Up Artist Show. I may even show and help out a bit.

-Cuisine

From Knack:

Dates for Knacks Bootcamp is Sept 9-11. it will be very intense. Cost is 350. Included will be a meet and greet with Brian from Season 2 of the Pick Up Artist Show.

Edit (June 2, 2011):

June 15th is next men’s class. Through Pros In The City and “lair” code still saves you $5.

-Cuisine
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I have a couple of spots left in my monthly men’s in-field (boot camp) program for May.  Also, I’m doing a couple of sit down classes with Discovering Knowledge.  They are listed below:

-Cuisine

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The code “lair” saves you $5 on the 2 Pros In The City classes below:

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Meeting Women: How to Approach and Attract Women and Get the Women You Really Want to Date (Men Only) Monday, May 2, 2011 Price: $30.00 if purchased by 5 p.m. Friday, April 29 Date: Monday, May 2, 2011 from 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM. Location: Sixth & I Community Center 606 I Street, NW Washington, DC 20001 *Enter through Sixth & I Community Center adjacent to Historic Synagogue Within walking distance from the Gallery Place / Chinatown Metro station Discover some of the secrets of Approaching and Attracting Women (and how to keep the ones YOU want). Meet “Tony’” the kind of guy that you can fully identify with. He has a good life, a fun attitude, a “regular Joe” in most ways. He has a bright future, a lot of friends – but no special girl in his life. Tony never has plans, but hopes that a friend will call and invite him to something or give him ideas of what to do. Tony might go to a bar, but he will just sit there moaning about how he is lousy at meeting the women he craves. Meet “Mike’” the kind of guy that you might fully identify with. He has a good life, a fun attitude, a “regular Joe” in most ways. He has a bright future, a lot of friends, and he has a special girl in his life. When people see the two of them talking, they always seem to be laughing; when they go out, their friends are jealous of this connection. All in all, they have found a level of chemistry and fun that most people would love to experience. Meet “Ken,” the kind of guy that few people can fully identify with (and many wish they could). He has a good life, a fun attitude, and is a “regular Joe” in most ways. He has a bright future, and a lot of friends, but no special girl in his life. Every time you see Ken, he is with a new woman or a couple of them. Ken is always saying the right things, touching the right subjects, and all in all, he is having the time of his life. Which man most closely resembles you? Which one do you want to be? During our conversation, we are going to give you a “map” so that you can plan your path to success. What does it take to connect with women in the ways that they want? Are you familiar with the four types of women and how to best attract each of them? Our presenters are masters of seduction. They have studied, learned and helped both men and women to understand each other and to create the kinds of relationships that both want. Imagine yourself at the beach with the woman that would make you happy. Can you see yourself walking into a party with a girl in each arm? Do you want to have a long term relationship and discover ways in which you can attract the right type of woman? This program is designed to help men get clarity in how to best start conversations that women will find compelling, magnetic and almost impossible to walk away from. You will learn some of the traits that make men irresistible to women and how to highlight those qualities in yourself even if you are just out of school, just out of a divorce or just plain terrible in social settings. Do you remember one of your lady friends saying the following about some other man, “he is so sexy” or “hmmm, there is just something about him”? How great will it be when women are saying the same thing about you? How will you handle the success you notice once you are able to start conversations with women at will? What changes will you also notice after you have gained success at attracting women and created the kind of social life that you know you can have (because you have put into practice what we have taught you)? Don’t miss this class, guys … it will change your life if you put it into action! Absolutely no food or drink allowed in this venue. When: Monday, May 2, 2011 from 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM. Where: Sixth & I Community Center 606 I Street, NW Washington, DC 20001 *Enter through Sixth & I Community Center adjacent to Historic Synagogue Within walking distance from the Gallery Place / Chinatown Metro station Price: $30.00 if purchased by 5 p.m. Friday, April 29   ————————————————————- Meeting Men: How To Get the Man You Really Want to Date (Women Only) Monday, May 16, 2011 Price: $30.00 if purchased by 5 p.m. Friday, April 29 Date: Monday, May 16, 2011 from 7:00 PM – 9:30 PM. Location: Sixth & I Community Center 606 I Street, NW Washington, DC 20001 *Enter through Sixth & I Community Center adjacent to Historic Synagogue Within walking distance from the Gallery Place / Chinatown Metro station Back when mom was young, and “The Rules” seemed to work, there were time-honored ways for a lady to attract a great man. Tradition, small towns, and coy behavior were the tools that savvy grandmothers handed down. But, with those times long faded, what is a big city woman to do? Our experts have those answers and more! The speakers of this introductory seminar have decoded modern society’s social cues to allow women to successfully navigate the rocky waves of single-dom to the shores of dating bliss. This evening you will learn these VITAL skills: · How to create a healthy, sexy, and confident image · How to begin a conversation with a man you choose · How to stop choosing the “wrong guy” · How to use the “LAW OF ATTRACTION” to kick start your search · How to find the men you want in your life by tweaking your life: “The google Principle” · How to employ the “Rule of Clusters” and body language secrets to increase your approachability · How to talk to men: Male Communication 101 Our team is trained in various aspects of social dynamics including body language, event planning, hypnosis, sales and dating. Our curriculum is designed to give you both practical and actionable ways of improving your dating life as well as insight into the male mind. Ladies, the strategies you will learn here are real. Real men telling you what works, including insights gained working with female friends and clients—secrets will be shared with you that make dating successful. Our system is successful because it is based on teaching you how to make your inner beauty shine. Imagine discovering the secrets that when put to use will make YOU irresistible to the right man! Invest in your future by joining us for this life altering event! What women who attended are saying: “Fun, entertaining and thought provoking” -Gail M. “I especially like the exercises & techniques we could try” -Joy D. “You guys are outstanding!” -Karen R. About our speakers: Our first speaker is a Dating Coach who teaches how to begin and improve conversations and create positive impressions. He also specializes in improving your body language and teaching you how to read other people’s body language and ascertain their level of interest. Our second speaker is a Master hypnotist who helps both men and women clear out their past failures and create a more exciting and fun life. His focus is on helping you live the life of your dreams now. His clients love the way he uses NLP, Hypnosis and other energy based modalities to propel them forward. Absolutely no food or drink allowed in this venue. When: Monday, May 16, 2011 from 7:00 PM – 9:30 PM. Where: Sixth & I Community Center 606 I Street, NW Washington, DC 20001 *Enter through Sixth & I Community Center adjacent to Historic Synagogue Within walking distance from the Gallery Place / Chinatown Metro station Price: $30.00 if purchased by 5 p.m. Friday, April 29

We’ve gotten some great questions lately.  Here are a few:

What are some common misconceptions newbies make about day and night game?

Day: thinking you are interrupting them.  Using the “Excuse me” (Greenpeace) opener (since it puts them in the frame that they are more important than you and you are interrupting them); you want to approach them more like a friend would than a Greenpeace employee. Not working hired guns (store employees). Getting stuck on the opener and losing control of the conversation.

Night:  They think large sets or mixed sets are more difficult than they are.  Not working hired guns for social proof and/or as targets.

Are most of your clients lawyers?

That’s a DC Question.  It varies, but if you are looking for trends: I do get a lot of lawyers, doctors, students, and doctors as clients as you’d expect.  I also get a lot of military clients, including officers.

Do you do style consultations?

Yes, sometimes combined with daygame sessions.

What advice do you have for daygame newbies?

Practice! Get good wings who you get along well with. Get coaching so that you correct and/or don’t develop bad habits and jumpstart your game.

-Cuisine

From here.

“On an Orange Line train bound for Vienna last year, Matt struck out twice in a row. The second woman, especially, had terrible body language, and he knew it. When she plays with her hair, it’s a good thing. When she rubs the back of her neck, it’s a very bad thing. He was getting the neck.

As Matt got off at his stop and walked toward the exit, a man in thick glasses stopped him. “Do you want to know what happened there?”

So began Cuisine’s tutelage of Matt. (Matt and Cuisine, like several other conference attendees, would not offer their full names for fear the image of the pickup community would have repercussions in their professional lives.) They later went to the DMV together, and Matt marveled at Cuisine’s ability to pick up two women there; the four of them had lunch. Matt says Cuisine has improved his social skills in all interactions, not just with women he wants to seduce.”

Myself (Cuisine) and Discovering Knowledge will now be speaking (Saturday) and coaching daygame (Sunday) at the conference.   My discount code is “daygamer”.

Discount code “daygamer” for the DC PUA conference percentage raised to 20% off:

http://www.daygamer.net/2010/12/08/speers-conference-last-weekend-in-january-in-dc/

Also, I am teaching a co-ed internet class 1/19 in DC, $25.  It includes me critiquing a profile (and half a dozen pictures) of yours as long as you send them to me at least a few days before the class; that alone is worth more than the $25 (without even counting the class itself).

I also still have a  women’s  class Jan. 10th & men’s class  Jan. 25th.  The Feb. 8  women’s class  through Pros in the City (Discount Code “lair”) has been rescheduled to 1/20. I mentioned a couple of these in a separate post.

And, I have several 3 hour in-field bootcamps scheduled.

For more info, contact me at Cuisine@daygamer.net.