Archive for March, 2011

Neil Strauss Book Signings: New York, DC, Etc.

Sunday, March 13th, 2011

Neil Strauss’ U.S. Everyone Loves You When You’re Dead Book Tour:

March 16, 2011 @ 7:00PM
163 Court Street
Brooklyn, NY 11201

March 17, 2011 @ 6:30PM
555 12th Street NW
Washington, DC 20004

March 19, 2011 @ 7:00PM
4736-38 N Lincoln Avenue
Chicago, IL 60625

March 20 @ 6pm
Brookline Booksmith
279 Harvard Avenue
Brookline, MA 02446

March 21 @ 5pm
603 North Lamar
Austin, TX 78074

March 22, 2011 @ 7:00PM
4326 University Way
Seattle, WA 98105

March 23, 2011 @ 7:00 PM
1760 Fourth Street
Berkeley, CA 94710

March 24, 2011 @ 7:30 PM
1644 Haight Street
San Francisco, CA 94117

March 25, 2011 @ 7:30 PM
10850 West Pico Boulevard
Los Angeles, CA 90064
(followed by a book release
party to be announced soon)

March 28 @ 7 p.m.
Mira Mesa MarketCenter
10775 Westview Parkway
San Diego, CA 92126

Inner/outer/Social Game In Action. DC Fit Week.

Wednesday, March 9th, 2011

In my inbox:

DC Fit Week is March 21-25, 2011. It is concentration of three areas: physical, mental, and financial health.  Here is the schedule of free (mind, body, and finance) fitness classes. Below is info on 2 of their Happy Hours.  Go to some events, meet some people (women).  Go to some classes and improve yourself. 🙂


DC Fit Week: Kickoff Happy Hour
Monday, March 21, 2011 from 5:00 PM – 8:00 PM (ET)
Washington, DC

The DC Fit Week Kickoff Happy Hour is a Fit happy hour at America’s first FIT Restaurant and Bar, FunXion. Enjoy a variety of artfully prepared superfood-enhanced dishes and products that are low in calories and rich in nutrients.

DC Fit Week is sponsoring Stop Colon Cancer Now that night & putting together a raffle to raise money for their incredible organization. Bring cash so you can donate & win great prizes. If you’d like to donate prizes, contact us.

WHERE: FunXion
WHEN: March 21, 2011 5-8pm

Be the first to donate!

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ADMITTANCE: You will not be admitted unless you RSVP. If you are unable to attend after RSVP’ing, please contact us so we can remove you from the list. We expect a packed event.

Sign up for classes, workshops, and events or get coupons at

DC Fit Week: *Decompression* Happy Hour sponsored by Monavie
Tuesday, March 22, 2011 from 6:00 PM – 8:00 PM (ET)
Washington, DC

Who doesn’t need to decompress after a long day at work, a long workout pushing yourself running/strength training/yoga/cardio or just because….

DC Fit Week is well underway, why not come and enjoy some tasty drinks created just for this event. Join us in the Executive Lounge at Lounge 201, enjoy healthy cocktails and get your DRINK ON, all while having a good time. What’s a week of fitness without being able to wind down. So come hang while we taste some awesome mixes like the Amazon Bliss or a Monajito.

WHERE: Lounge 201
WHEN: Tuesday, March 22, 2011 6pm-9pm

Happy Hour Specials: $6 Monavie cocktails and martinis

$5 House red/white wine by the glass
$4 Select bottled beer

Raffle: We will raffle off a bottle of Monavie m(mun).


Good Article On How To Be Persuasive

Saturday, March 5th, 2011

Why People Listen to Chris Christie (by Andy Goodman, free-range thinking (March 2011)

Even if you dislike the New Jersey governor’s politics, you have to respect the way he delivers his message.

Given a choice between increasing taxes on New Jersey’s millionaires or reaching into the pockets of teachers, Governor Chris Christie has gone after the teachers. I could dislike him for that alone, but when you throw in his views on gay marriage (against), a woman’s right to choose (against), and environmental protection (not if it’s bad for business), I really can’t stand the guy. So when I see Christie speak live on TV or recorded in clips on YouTube, why do I find him so darned likable?

Apparently, I’m not alone in this. Christie is a rapidly rising star in the Republican Party and his name keeps surfacing in discussions of the 2012 presidential race. Christie flatly denies any interest, and he does so with humor and humility, which only makes him more likable. In fact, whatever subject he tackles, Christie regularly demonstrates mastery of three techniques essential for delivering a tough message:

Be a person first.
Audiences don’t separate the messenger from his message. If they

New Jersey Governor Chris Christie

don’t like the speaker, they’re probably not going to like (or even listen to) what he has to say. Christie clearly understands this, so he frequently talks about himself or his family to establish a connection with his audience before getting into potentially sticky issues.

In the YouTube clip “Chris Christie on His Style,” a voter chastises the governor for his brusque, often confrontational approach. Christie offers this reply: “I have an Irish father, and I had – before she passed away six years ago – a Sicilian mother. Now, for those of you who have been exposed to the combination of Irish and Sicilian, it has made me not unfamiliar with conflict. In my house, my parents left nothing unsaid.” Listen to how Christie delivers this line (during the first minute of this clip) and you’ll see why the audience laughs and, more importantly, how Christie became a person in that room before he had to be a politician.

Connect on an emotional level.
There’s a reason politicians talk about the battle for “hearts and minds” and not for “minds and hearts.” Human beings respond emotionally to incoming information even before their brains are fully engaged. If our emotions are negative (e.g., anger, distrust, fear), our brains will find ways to ignore or discount the incoming information. In short: we believe what we want to believe.

Christie understands this, too, and he often uses humor to emotionally connect with his audiences before asking them to seriously consider a controversial proposition. Forced to explain why he believes New Jersey’s teachers should contribute part of their salaries to cover health care benefits, Christie manages to be both funny and persuasive in this clip, aptly titled “This is the crap I have to hear.”

Tell stories.
In a recent profile on Christie, New York Times political columnist Matt Bai recounted how the governor used a story to explain a fundamental problem with his state’s insurance plans:

When he was a federal prosecutor, Christie told the audience, he got to choose from about 100 health-insurance plans, ranging from cheap to quite expensive. But as soon as he became governor, the “benefits lady” told him he had only three state plans from which to choose, Goldilocks-style; one was great, one was modestly generous and one was rather miserly. And any of the three would cost him exactly 1.5 percent of his salary.

“You’re telling me,” Christie said he told the woman, feigning befuddlement, “that no matter which one I pick – the good one, or the O.K. one, or the bad one – I’m going to pay 1 1/2 percent of my salary?” And she said, “Yes.”

“And I said, then everyone picks the really good one, right? And she said, ‘Ninety-six percent of state employees pick the really good one.'”

“Which led me to have two reactions,” Christie told the crowd. “First, bring those other 4 percent to me! Because when I have to start laying people off, they’re the first ones!” His audience burst into near hysterics. “And the second reaction was, of course I would choose the best plan,” Christie said, “and so would you.”

[Excepted from “How Chris Christie Did His Homework,” The New York Times, February 27, 2011]
Christie also abides by a basic rule of narrative: a strong protagonist needs an equally powerful antagonist to make the story interesting. At the same time, he is very careful when choosing antagonists. In his campaign to have teachers cover a portion of their health care costs, Christie is careful not to make the teachers themselves his antagonist. Instead, he casts their union in that role.

“The union collects $730 a year from every teacher and school employee in the union in mandatory dues,” Christie told one audience in New Jersey. “And if you don’t want to join the union, here’s your option: you can be out, [but] you pay 85% of $730 to be out. It’s like the Hotel California, you know? You can check in anytime you like, but you can never leave.” (Click here to see the entire clip, “Not About Teachers” on YouTube.)

In a tribute to Ronald Reagan last February, former U.S. Senator Fred Thompson wrote, “His reputation as The Great Communicator boils down to three basic traits: he was simple; he was clear; he was sincere.” Christie displays those traits as well, and even if he’s not running in 2012, he’s already vying for the title of Next Great Communicator. Those who oppose his agenda and have tough messages of their own to convey would do well to learn from his success.


1/2 off Speeddating at Date & Dash

Saturday, March 5th, 2011

Here is a half off special on Date & Dash, a Speeddating company which has events in various cities. There is a day left of the special.

Also, the code “lair” still saves you $5 on Pros in the City events, including Speeddating. Oscar and I are tecahign a women’s only class through them in Dc on this Monday evening.