Archive for December, 2010

Millionaire Matchmaker

Friday, December 31st, 2010

I’ve watching Patti Stanger’s show, Millionaire Matchmaker. What do I think? I like the show.

I feel her on the clients who think they are buying a product and that they are the boss. They actually buying a service from a specialist, and they need to listen to the specialist in order to get them out of their nonworking dating pattern. Patti usually throws a “test” in…which is a girl or guy that matches what the client usually goes for…and is therefore the wrong match. I felt like she gave one of the female clients too many “tests” and not enough appropriate choices.

Some of her female clients are particularly difficult because they “masculine energy” that makes them successful business people works against them in love (since they don’t want feminine men as matches). Also, many of them are just not ready to truly put love as a priority in their lives. As such, her service, seems to often not work very well for the female clients, but I won’t blame Patty for it. She probably knows most of those women will fail…even after spending 50k each…but it isn’t Patti’s fault if they are not ready or will not listen.

Patty is very good at reading people and body language, and has some good experts that she can call upon for a variety of specialties (fashion, counseling, astrology, etc.).  She also gets some very attractive women for her clients.

Some memorable moments:

  • A female client brought her gay bodyguard on the date.
  • A client brought his hot female assistant (who Patti thinks he is sleeping with) on the date.
  • A client brought his male friends on a date and they (himself included) proceeded to get drunk, while his date didn’t drink. they also pressured her to kiss him in front of everyone.  Patty warned him not to bring friends and has a rule that people should not drink more than 2 drinks.
  • A female client brought her date on a “Toxic Tour of LA.” Patti tried to talk her out of it.
  • A (gay) client told his date what he could and could not order from the menu (no read meat).
  • A client told his date that he (the client) doesn’t like people.


Some of her male clients are socially awkward and need help actually getting better with women..and that is something that takes time. They need help hunting/fishing and dating before they are ready for a true match. That is where someone like me comes in…as I show men how men get their personalities across in an attractive way and teach them both how to improve their body language and how to read women’s body language and attraction signals.  She does often give them good advice about how to act on their dates…but she can’t cover everything, and some of these people really do need to be taught “how to fish.”

She isn’t always clear. She told a client to “stop being creepy” without explaining how. She tells people (men) at her casting calls to come to the mixer looking hot without explaining how…although she is much clearer with the women (fix your teeth, wear a wig, cover your boobs up, show your legs).

She should not yell at her staff (and they should not yell at each other) in front of other people.

She is much harsher on people at her casting calls than necessary. Sometimes she is downright mean.

New Episodes are on Bravo 9pm Tuesdays, EST. (Update: the current season is now over.)

“Dating Leftovers”…My Response

Sunday, December 19th, 2010

My response to Best of Moxie – Online Dating Is Like Eating Leftovers:

I’ll add another wrinkle to this. Men and women do not date the same way.

For men, attraction is very visual…and immediate. They look at you, and are either attracted or not. If they aren’t sure (it’s a maybe)…it’s a huge red flag? Why don’t I know if she is attractive?

For women, attraction is more about how the man makes them feel. They can definitely pick out the one guy at a bar they are attracted to…but the amount of men that fit into that category is very small…and even then there are usually other things that are attached to it coloring how the women feel about the men such as positives such as whether the men are surrounded by women or leading men. Women are often dating men who fit into their “maybe” category visually. They may not even be able to get the men who fit into their “yes” category…since those men have more options and have to do less hunting.

How does internet dating play into this? For men…it’s the same. Attracted or not. For women…now they are being forced to be visual about attraction AND (depending on what they are looking for) still have to read profiles to see how the profile makes them feel. So, online, women are often turning down men who they would actually date if they met them in person first. And the men they are visually attracted to…have other options since plenty of women like them as well. Plus, women often have really bad profiles (negative or picky content and bad pictures)…and still get tons of messages, while knocking out some of the higher value men…who have other options. They may also be knocking out the more relationship oriented men.

Men can be older and heavier/shorter/less attractive that the original commenter might find attractive and still get very attractive women…because attraction for women is…as I have stated…less visual and more about how you make them feel.

If a woman looks at a dating site and feels the men are all unattractive she probably has an inflated value of what she brings to the table. Plus, she should try harder to meet people in person and be more open-minded about it.


Discovering Knowledge & Cuisine (me): Upcoming Speaking Engagement

Thursday, December 16th, 2010

Discovering Knowledge and I are the speakers for the below men only event. Use the code “lair” to save $5. BTW, we also have a women only class in early February, and the same discount code works for it.


Meeting Women: How to Approach and Attract Women and Get the Women You Really Want to Date! (Men Only)

Tuesday, January 25, 2011
Price: $30.00 if purchased by 5 p.m. Friday, December 17
Date: Tuesday, January 25, 2011 from 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM.

Location: MOCA DC Galleries
1054 31st St NW
in Canal Square
Washington, DC 20007-4403

Closest Metro – Foggy Bottom

Discover some of the secrets of Approaching and Attracting Women (and how to keep the ones YOU want).

Meet “Tony’” the kind of guy that you can fully identify with. He has a good life, a fun attitude, a “regular Joe” in most ways. He has a bright future, a lot of friends – but no special girl in his life. Tony never has plans, but hopes that a friend will call and invite him to something or give him ideas of what to do. Tony might go to a bar, but he will just sit there moaning about how he is lousy at meeting the women he craves.

Meet “Mike’” the kind of guy that you might fully identify with. He has a good life, a fun attitude, a “regular Joe” in most ways. He has a bright future, a lot of friends, and he has a special girl in his life. When people see the two of them talking, they always seem to be laughing; when they go out, their friends are jealous of this connection. All in all, they have found a level of chemistry and fun that most people would love to experience.

Meet “Ken,” the kind of guy that few people can fully identify with (and many wish they could). He has a good life, a fun attitude, and is a “regular Joe” in most ways. He has a bright future, and a lot of friends, but no special girl in his life. Every time you see Ken, he is with a new woman or a couple of them. Ken is always saying the right things, touching the right subjects, and all in all, he is having the time of his life.

Which man most closely resembles you? Which one do you want to be? During our conversation, we are going to give you a “map” so that you can plan your path to success. What does it take to connect with women in the ways that they want? Are you familiar with the four types of women and how to best attract each of them?

Our presenters are masters of seduction. They have studied, learned and helped both men and women to understand each other and to create the kinds of relationships that both want. Imagine yourself at the beach with the woman that would make you happy. Can you see yourself walking into a party with a girl in each arm? Do you want to have a long term relationship and discover ways in which you can attract the right type of woman?

This program is designed to help men get clarity in how to best start conversations that women will find compelling, magnetic and almost impossible to walk away from. You will learn some of the traits that make men irresistible to women and how to highlight those qualities in yourself even if you are just out of school, just out of a divorce or just plain terrible in social settings.

Do you remember one of your lady friends saying the following about some other man, “he is so sexy” or “hmmm, there is just something about him”? How great will it be when women are saying the same thing about you? How will you handle the success you notice once you are able to start conversations with women at will? What changes will you also notice after you have gained success at attracting women and created the kind of social life that you know you can have (because you have put into practice what we have taught you)?

Don’t miss this class; it will change your life if you put it into action!

MOCA DC – Directions from M & 31st St NW:

First, get to the corner of M & 31st St NW.
Go 1 block toward water – alley on right, directly across from Paper Moon restaurant.
Continue to underground parking entrance on right. $10 parking all night after 5 pm.
1054 Address is to a Courtyard (Canal Square). Enter from underground parking garage entrance or slightly past that to opening on right.
Enter courtyard and go to rear.
MOCA DC is on the right – 202.342.6230


Underground Parking Garage – $10 all night after 5
Street parking is available on 31st, Thomas Jefferson, 30th or 29th
Also on 31st Street – on side streets of N, O & P – some is metered, some is not

When: Tuesday, January 25, 2011 from 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM.

Where: MOCA DC Galleries
1054 31st St NW
in Canal Square
Washington, DC 20007-4403

Closest Metro – Foggy Bottom

Price: $30.00

Speer’s Conference, last weekend in January, in DC.

Wednesday, December 8th, 2010

as per a deal we have with Attraction Vault, you can use the code “daygamer” for 15% off Speer’s PUA conference last weekend in January.

When you come to the Global Pickup Conference, you will get the best combination of multi-mentor instruction, you will get one day of instruction, in the field during the wildest, craziest block party with the gurus!
These are the top pick up artists and dating coachs from America, Europe, and Asia!
You will be learning from PUA’s featured in Playboy, Men’s Health, Hustler, Forbes, and other mainstream media.
With your ticket to the Conference You’ll Get:
• 2 Days Of In Class Training• Be able to train a Full Day Infield with the “Faculty”• A 100 Page Routine Manual (Worth Over $100)
• Participate in the Private VIP Forum
• Viewing access to the VIP Video Vault (with Over 10 Hours of Secret Camera Training Footage From the Field (Worth Over $300)
• Learn the latest breakthroughs from our Free Podcast• The official Miami Guide, with all the “Hot Spots”
• A FREE Raffle Ticket, where you’ll get a chance to win thousands of dollars of quality products, services & training throughout the conference.
• We’ll also help you find Discounts on Hotels & Food
• And Much More…

Speakers include Vince Kelvin, Speer, and Brad P.