Archive for July, 2010

Today’s horoscope translates to game…

Friday, July 30th, 2010

“What qualifies as an error in the minds of most normal people counts to you as a resounding success. What makes the difference?”

This is from the Express. Horoscopes don’t usually end in questions. But yes, it has to do with framing, and knowing what one’s goals are. If you don’t know what I was trying to do, it may have been a success instead of an error. 🙂


Professionals in the City – Discount

Friday, July 23rd, 2010

Pros In The City hosts tons of social events, including speeddating, dating lectures, and mixers. Enter the code “lair” to save $5. I prefer the speeddating events at K Street Lounge.


Friend Support

Thursday, July 22nd, 2010

I recently had a client tell me that his female friends won’t help him with girls. They tell him they won’t help him FC. It’s all framing…your friends should like you and want you to succeed (at business, in your relationships, etc). Frame it as you looking for a girlfriend…and then if you talk to girls, they should be ok with it. And, they should never interfere with you talking to girls. That is why we don’t use ex g/fs or girls with crushes on us as pivots (girls who help us with other girls). If they are getting in your way, that relationship needs to be re-evaluated or the person needs to be talked to about it. Same thing if male friends are AMOG’ing you.

Also, you can help your pivots with guys – in the field or with friends.

I generally frame PU as a journey of self improvement, and noways…I frame myself as a coach (someone out to help people with this journey).

Some naturals will AMOG even if they are your friends. I have one who does it but he can’t stop me from pulling. If a friend is holding you back, don’t take him to places where you want to talk to girls. You want cool wingmen you vibe with, and you will then help each other with women.

Anyone want a used Lair domain name? :)

Monday, July 12th, 2010

I now own the domain, and am taking offers. So if you have a lair (you know who you are) and want to redirect the name, or chage your name. Or, maybe you want to start a lair in Washington DC. The original Dclair couldn’t get this name (because someone was sitting on it) so they used (; they are currently defunct anyway. DC Lair was the oldest lair in the country.

If not, I can redirect it here or start a general blog for it. I have no plans to ressurect the lair itself.

10 Body Language Blunders

Wednesday, July 7th, 2010

This is from a business (not dating) site, but it is still useful for dating, since the tips are mostly universal. Here is #1:

1. A Closed Body

Whether sitting or standing, your body should be loose and open. Do not cross your arms. Do not cross your legs. While you may think it conveys a sense of ease, studies have shown that a people read a closed body differently: they subconsciously think you have something to hide.

What’s more, you’re missing a golden opportunity to send a positive signal. In keeping your body open and your arms spread a little more widely than your torso, you offer your counterpart a “mock hug”. You don’t want to actually hug them (that could be mistake #11!), but this visual cue of a hug antecedent sends the right signal.

So, where are you from?

Wednesday, July 7th, 2010

It is funny, because this may seem like an AFC question (like “What do you do?”) when asked early on but I’m in a very transient city, where people are from everywhere and it gives me (with my food-based identity) an easy jumping point to talking about food.

Yesterday, I picked up a HB8.5 on the bus and (bounced to) metro. She just moved here from S. Cali. Easy jumping point to me telling stories about chili peppers, and to busting her…on CA people thinking Mex food sucks here. Easy transition to seeding and letter settign up a taco date. I generally don’t setup food as a first date, but this is really inexpensive and turns out the same price as meeting for drinks at a HH. And, it’s nearby.

Free Daygame Talk

Wednesday, July 7th, 2010

I’m having a free daygame talk in DC on a weekday evening in a couple of weeks. Email me for info and to RSVP at