Archive for June, 2009

Combining three anti-flake tactics

Tuesday, June 30th, 2009

Insta-date, Time Bridge, and multiple bounces.

Last night I had a 4 hour insta-date with a cute weightlifter/lawyer from a grad school computer lab last night.  We bounced to a Peruvian chicken place, back to the lab, to print services, and out.  There was a lot of kino.

Date close/time bridge means that I setup a future date on the original pickup.  You can go for the number more easily when you’ve done this. 

Insta-date means that we bounce somewhere else on the initial meeting.

Funny online game response I received

Friday, June 26th, 2009

“Hi C********,

Thanks for your warm note. And thanks for forwarding the video clip. What’s it like eating pork? Wink

We do have things in common. To up the ante, we’d have even more in common if we agreed on the following:

~ Like me, you believe that marriage should be defined as between one man and one woman

~ You’re think children do best in homes headed by a husband and a wife

~ You understand that being socially conservative can also mean that you’re thoughtful, cultured, and open-minded … not racist, homophobic, etc., as the left accuses you of being.

~ You’re grateful that, despite Bush’s flaws, we did not see a single act of domestic terrorism for over 7 years on American soil

If this sounds like you … we would hit it off splendidly.
Have a good start to the day!

-L*******”

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P.S. She’s getting screened out (doesn’t meet the qualifications for me). 😉

The Mailbag (Questions for Cuisine) – Metro Game

Wednesday, June 24th, 2009

Adept asked me this via text. 😉  You can email questions to me here.

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Cuisine,

What % of your metro approaches are in the train, vs. platform or moving sets?  Which of these is the most difficult?

-Adept

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My approaches are split pretty evenly between the platform (including benches) and the actual train.   I do very few moving sets that are not on the actual platform.  I have (a few times) opened on the escalator or within the larger metro system (between the platform and street), usually on the way to the platform, and # closed them there. 

Standing platform sets are the most difficult.  You can tell by their (closed/uncomfortable) body langauge.

-Cuisine

Definition: cognitive dissonance

Tuesday, June 23rd, 2009

“Cognitive dissonance is the feeling of uncomfortable tension which comes from holding two conflicting thoughts in the mind at the same time.

Dissonance increases with:

  • The importance of the subject to us.
  • How strongly the dissonant thoughts conflict.
  • Our inability to rationalize and explain away the conflict.

Dissonance is often strong when we believe something about ourselves and then do something against that belief. If I believe I am good but do something bad, then the discomfort I feel as a result is cognitive dissonance.

Cognitive dissonance is a very powerful motivator which will often lead us to change one or other of the conflicting belief or action. The discomfort often feels like a tension between the two opposing thoughts. To release the tension we can take one of three actions:”

Continued here:

http://changingminds.org/explanations/theories/cognitive_dissonance.htmhttp://changingminds.org/explanations/theories/cognitive_dissonance.htm

Ends with:

“Using it

Cognitive dissonance is central to many forms of persuasion to change beliefs, values, attitudes and behaviors. The tension can be injected suddenly or allowed to build up over time. People can be moved in many small jumps or one large one.

Defending

When you start feeling uncomfortable, stop and see if you can find the inner conflict. Then notice how that came about. If it was somebody else who put that conflict there, you can decide not to play any more with them.”

The cologne opener in daygame

Tuesday, June 23rd, 2009

I had a great date with a tall (undergrad) intern who I met at a department store.  She was shopping for cologne for her dad for father’s day and I sprayed my wrist and had her smell it.  You can also do this at Sephora and the sales woman there actually made several sample bottler up for me.  Free samples made to order is better than buying samples on ebay to try. 🙂

Try sniffing your wrist first (not that I did but it was obvious I had just sprayed it at the counter).

Some colognes that work for my body chemistry: Eternity, Ed Hardy Love & Luck, and Sexual Fresh.

Sometimes the not so obvious target is an HB9

Friday, June 12th, 2009

Went to a Jewish Happy Hour, and the men ignored an HB9 – the 21yo Irish (American) hostess wearing a crucifix pendant.   Part of that was that she was a “hired gun” and these guys don’t think that way, and part was that she was very not Jewish.  I got her #. 🙂

Body Language – Answers

Wednesday, June 10th, 2009

PUMA of Sexandselling.com requested the answers to this (http://www.daygamer.net.?p=122) , so here goes:

Left corner man holding his drink like a shield (blocking his body) with both hands touching, guy to the right of him playing with his thumb, and the smaller girl (holding her hands together and having a fake looking smile and trying to take little space) have uncomfortable body language.  They all have “self touch.” 

The three people actively touching other people (spiky hair guy, larger girl with open body language, and the jewish looking guy who is touching two people all look very comfortable.  They are kinoing (touching) other people.  The larger girl seems to me attempting to make the smaller girl more comfortable.

The guy is the back that PUMA thinks is a vampire is actually Eastern European but not Travselvanian, so he is not a vampire.  🙂

Day/Social game Field Report – Russian Lifeguard

Wednesday, June 3rd, 2009

Russian hottie (law sudent), approximately 22yo at the pool.  She was chatting with an Asian-ish  guy (not a  lifeguard) about her age in Russian.  I opened by asking if he is Kazakh (Ooops, Mongolian) and then asked if she is Russian (correct).   The dude wound up being a prop and giving me material to use by asking me questions but he didnt make any moves on her.  He translated for her sometimes.  He was cool.

she couldnt understand some of what i said but she kept getting giggly, her buying temperature (energy) climbed and she kept telling me how funny i am (IOIs, and DHV on being funny).  She was trying to hide how interested she was by hiding her face when she laughed but that (the hiding) didn’t last long.

The three of us talked about food and culture (DHV – my identity) which I transitioned into foreign girls I’d dated (preselection).  at one point she asked how many g/fs I have (IOI)…and I said “none but I’m looking for new ones. Are Russian girls cute (neg)?  I’ve never dated one.”  She said “I promise they are (IOI since said in a knowing way).”

I used “thumb war” and high fives to raise her buying temperature (since I already was getting attraction). I negged (bantered) her on having “cheater’s thumbs.”  “Your thumbs grow when you start thumb wrestling.” or some such.

At one point she said her computer has viruses. I told her to stop downloading topless pics of Brad Pitt.  She said he isn’t her type.  I mentioned another actor. Nope.  Vinn Diesel? Eh…but it wanst as negative a reatcion so i said “oh..you like big bald men.” and she said “No, i like men like you.” Major IOI.

I knew she was getting off work soon so i said i was going for pizza soon and asked if she wanted to come (a bounce) . “No. Tonight I have icecream, fruit, and coffee. Tomorrow we get pizza (a date close AKA time bridge).”  I told her I couldnt tomorrow, but Thursday?  She said yes and kept telling me not to forget thursday (IOI).  I went for her # and she went to take my instead so I overcame her objection and got her # and called her so she’d have mine.  I texted her later.  She responded.

Always try to get the number even if the girl says no the first time. It may be a shit test (test to see if you are real)…like the last 2 times it happened to me.

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IOI = Indicator of interest. DHV= Demonstration of Value.

Kino in Daygame

Tuesday, June 2nd, 2009

People are social animals who connect through touch (kino).  The amount and kinds of touch vary per individual and environment.  The challenge with day game is knowing that train, music festival, street, library, bookstore, beach, park, cafe, shopping mall food court, supermarket, clothing store, etc…..approaches  may require different amounts of physical touch.   I do believe that you should kino both during day game and night game, and that if you are not, you should learn how.

Game is game and game requires kino.  Social people touch each other and being social (and having social inelligence) is attractive to women.  The people who looked most comfortable in the picture I posted regarding body language…were touching others.  The ones who were less comfortable either crawled up inside themselves ad shrank away or hid behind something (like a drink).

Social people even touch people of the same sex (in appropriate ways like (in men) fist bumps and shoulder taps and high fives)…its part of being social.  If you shrink away from another man tapping your shoulder or something (I’ve seen it happen)…you are inviting the AMOGing (alpha males dominating you) of your life. 🙂

In general…kino less in day game than night game unless its high energy day game like a music festival.  Kino even less if its somewhere where people are natural uncomfortable and low energy like a metro…and even less on the metro platform standing up.

I like to teach  how to kino in general – how and where to touch.   Some people like to teach kino gambits (I use the ring finger routine).  A combination is fine as well.

This weekend’s bootcamp (May 29-31) – post one

Monday, June 1st, 2009

This weekend was a blast.  I worked the Venusian Arts bootcamp with Lovedrop, Discovery (London), and Adept (a local coach like Knack).   VA calls me (and adept and Knack) in when they are in NYC or DC.  The students mainly seemed to be from NY, PA, and the DC area…although one flew in from NM.  Knack is in Mexico (not NM) right now.

Girl Candy was there as were two former students of mine from last year – one of which (Derby, who Discovery called “Darby” at the beginning of the bootcamp and “Ditzy” near the end) is now a sales associate for VA (they are looking for more sales help, btw).   The other student is a great guy who is a former stutterer who helps other stutters speak better – a leader in that community.

I don’t want to give a play by play on the whole thing, but I will write a few posts about the weekend.

On meal breaks, anyone who wanted to could come with me to whatever restaurant i was heading to…so I got to spend time with the students outside the lectures and clubs, including ones who didn’t join us in-field.  Some of my stories are about the daygame that happened between the hotel and meals.

In a bar (Saturday night)…I asked a girl for her # and she she “No. you give me yours.  I’m a contract negotiator. You won’t win this, give up now!”  I got her # anyway and she and her room mates met us elsewhere later that evening.”   Many times, you can get a number even if a girl says no.  In this case, she was “shit testing” me – seeing if I’m real and can handle her.

To Be Continued Soon…